Modern mothers have no immediate village to let our children go to and come ourselves with a mixed bag of repressed pains and fears that like an archeological dig, pop up as our children reach the age the trigger was set, sometimes many generations ago. It is little wonder that the closest we come to letting our children go is to crèche or school. Letting them go is deeper than that just as love is deeper than physically taking care of our child. It is at the level of the heart space that we hold and let go.
It could be that like birth, we don’t get to hold our baby until we have truly surrendered. The act of birthing is ultimately, the act of surrendering. With modern mothers, our analytical mind is over active and often at birth this presents a massive problem that prevents true surrender and blocks natural birthing; as statistics show.
So if we accept that we are a culture of women who have largely forgotten how to surrender, we can turn our attention to finding ways to allow that to heal. Moment by moment it’s the simple things like singing and gardening, walking in nature, that give us back to the surrender space.
We need to let go of so many layers of thought that quietly drive us to ever shifting fashions of the same neurosis that afflicts modern women. But even subscribing to this line of thought, is the same holding pattern. Use these words only briefly, let them go and with love think of breathing. Breath in the love for your child, breath out that same love. You will see that it is not your love you give to your child but God’s love, the universal love that you can source though letting go is so much bigger.
