There are phases in life that we can readily classify into two categories: the good and the bad times. All humans pass through these moments in their lifetime. Sometimes, we’ll face difficulties that make us feel like failures or disappointments. Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience, and we’ve all been traumatized by something at some point in our lives. Challenging times can tamper with our emotions, causing anxiety, fear, and sadness.
Some people seem to be more resilient when it comes to trauma, and are able to get through it more easily than others who break down mentally and emotionally without being able to withstand the situation. What differentiates the two is that some of us have learned better tools throughout our lives with which to navigate this world we live in than others.
We all have trauma in our lives to some extent. Some people don’t even realise it.
Trauma often leaves a lasting, negative impression on people’s lives. If someone experienced trauma as a child – whether it was from their parents or guardians – it can shape their thinking and reasoning into adulthood. For example, let’s say a boy child grew up in a family where he was punished for every single mistake he made. He would be locked in his room and made to study, wouldn’t be allowed to mingle with other kids or go to amusement parks and other fun places. When he was in school, his friends would recount how they had fun on the weekends and he would feel left out and left behind. This experience could shape his thinking as an adult, causing him to believe that he is never good enough and that he will always be left out and alone.
This kind of child will often not be included in the fun conversations because he has no idea of what they are talking about. Deep down he is hurt because his parents /guardians continue to make him study to get top grades. This trauma will live rent-free in his head and he’ll feel segregated from the rest of the world.
Trauma can have a significant impact on our lives, especially if we experience it at a young age. But as we get older, we often face even greater challenges and traumatic experiences. It takes a strong person to overcome these challenges, but how do we do it? How do we see trauma as a path to triumph and success in our lives?
According to Dr. Gabor Mate, a Hungarian Canadian physician, and author, who writes about how to discover our true selves, trauma does revisit and reoccur at some point in our lives. Sometimes in life, we need to see trauma as a learning opportunity. When problems occur during a traumatic period we don’t respond to what happens, we respond to our perception of what happens.
For instance, if your best friend didn’t show up at your birthday party, you will feel disappointed, sad, and rejected, you actually assume it was done on purpose not minding if there’s a reason why she couldn’t attend. The problem of trauma usually starts with your imagination, and it can end with you. To conquer trauma sometimes you must see the problem is actually from you, it starts with you and can end with you it’s important to learn to accept these situations as they are all part of you.
As human beings, we should realize that trauma is inevitable in our lives. Knowing this we can then work on ourselves in case we suddenly find ourselves in any traumatizing situation. We can then see it as an opportunity to better our lives and self-worth.
Let me bring you to this crucial example for better understanding.
There was once a man who was actively involved in fraudulent activities, duping wealthy men in society of their hard-earned properties. Eventually, he was caught and after several trials, he was sentenced to 7 years in jail. While in the correctional centre he experienced lots of traumatic stress both from inmates and guards and this helped to shape his thinking about his life and his self-worth. He obviously didn’t want this to happen again after serving his jail term, so he began thinking about how he could use the same initiative he’d been using for fraudulent activities to earn legally. So he started his own software brand and when he finished his jail term he then started living a legal life with no fears and anxiety. However, he worked on himself and today he’s a better man.
In conclusion, turning trauma into triumph is all about you and your personal journey. It’s important to remember that your perception of any traumatic situation can always be expanded. If you find yourself in a disturbing situation, try to calm your nerves, think of possibilities, and find ways out instead of blaming yourself or others for your misfortune.
There will always be a way out if you think deeply enough. If you think this is beyond your capabilities, seek help from others. Talk to people, visit a therapist, and trust that the pains will go away and you will find peace and happiness in your life.
BRING YOUR MIND AND YOUR HEART BACK TO YOUR SOUL
Debbie Paull has trained in Holistic wellness for over 25 years including Reiki Tera Mai, Shiatsu, Massage, Aromatherapy, Thought field therapy, Australian Bush Flowers, Spinal Flow, Hypnotherapy, Past Life Regression, Life between Lives, and most recently RMT Life Coach in strategic intervention.
Visit her website at https://www.neidrawellnesscentre.info/
