The Art of Friendship by Kez Wickham St George

1929

Friendship comes from the Ancient Greek word Philia.

Let us see what Aristotle says about the word Philia, an ancient Greek word that had many meanings. It is written as ‘Storage, Agape, and Eros’. The word Philia is usually translated as friendship or affection. Friendships of virtue are ideal because only they are based on recognition. In Aristotle’s opinion, he identifies three essential bases for friendship: utility, pleasure, and virtue. The concept of friendship surfaces when we worry over whether our multi-gatherings (networking) in places, may impair the quality of our connections, our tribe, or our community. Aristotle suggests the very material of friendship is the exchange of it. In friendship, sentiment is the relationship. Friendship may have a public aspect, but it is actually a private exchange, between two people. Is it this friendship that remains special to those who have it in their lives?

In a more modern-day scenario, I recently read there are four C’s of friendship, the most effective way is placing your friends in categories. Confidence, Creativity, Commonalities, and Consideration.

Confidence

A successful initial encounter must convey at least a threshold amount of self-confidence. Being timid, apologetic, or self-deprecating does not inspire confidence and, when seen as a first impression, makes a meaningful relationship problematic.

Creativity

Not only displays innovation and problem-solving, but it also implies sensitivity to the feelings of others. People are attracted to others who show that they can take an amount of information, and then come up with creative ways of assistance if needed. People are seen as caring if they give complete attention to their new acquaintance. Consideration is shown by the absence of criticism and by not doing things to imply that you are superior, and others are inadequate. One way of showing this is by assisting your new acquaintances to clarify or expound upon their thoughts as they are expressing them.

Commonality

Such as growing up in the same city, sports, you both have young children, asking about local schools and libraries, what are their attitudes or opinions about movies and current events in the outside world, common bonds can create relationships. Often you can get a response from people who are reticent to offer information by offering insight about yourself. Another successful approach is perhaps asking for advice and listening carefully, appreciating another’s point of view.

Courtesy

Is always noticed and appreciated; non-verbal contacts are equally important in making a good impression. These include good eye contact, nodding your head in agreement, or encouragement by giving a warm and firm handshake. So it seems friendship is not as easy as it looks, Perhaps taking some time to see if they are the friend for you, or is it simply a friendly acquaintance you seek?

Dale Carnegie said it best: “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”


Kez Wickham St George is a #1 bestselling award-winning Author who has a passion to champion people from many diverse backgrounds to reveal the best in their creative side. Her ability to draw out the very best in storytelling from her clients has made her a popular Mentor/ Consultant. – To connect with Kez click here 

 

 


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