Communication Resolves Grief
By IADC® Therapist Helen Parish, BSW, Grad Dip SocWel, Grad Dip Human Services (Counselling).
Induced After Death Communication (IADC®) enables those suffering from grief over the loss of a loved one to reconnect with the deceased under the guidance of a trained therapist.
In 1995, in the US, Dr Allan Botkin discovered a way to help bereaved people have an after-death communication experience that resolved feelings of grief resulting from a death, to a degree that was previously not considered possible in the field of grief therapy.
The therapy is a consistently positive, loving and natural experience that most people are able to experience. After completing training in IADC®, therapists around the world have been inducing after death communication with many thousands of people wanting to experience a reconnection with a lost loved one.
Dr Botkin’s book Induced After Death Communication a Miraculous Therapy for Grief and Loss and The IADC® website http://induced-adc.com detail many early examples of Induced After Death Communication experiences. Beneath is a story of such an experience reproduced with permission from Dr Botkin’s IADC® site.
Visiting the Dead – By Julia Mossbridge
‘A friend of mine died when I was in college, and I blamed myself. Josh was not sure he wanted to come to the dance I was ‘deejaying’ with his sister, but when I flirted a bit during a phone call he decided to make the drive. He never arrived at the dance – he was killed by a truck on the freeway. I had mentally tucked away this episode until I heard of a new technique that uses communication with the deceased as a way to heal unresolved grief.
I was pretty sure I didn’t have any residual grief about Josh’s death. If anything, I felt only guilt about the role I played in it. Nonetheless, I wondered if I could ask Josh’s forgiveness for my role in his death. So I called up the doctor who developed this technique, Allan Botkin, who does his work in Lincolnshire, Illinois.
When I walked into Dr Botkin’s office… the first thing I saw was a two-foot long white stick with a blue marker cap on it. Now really, I thought, is this it?! A magic wand for seeing dead people? And Dr. Botkin… looked like he belonged at a softball game, giving tips to kids in an avuncular, arm-around-the-shoulder sort of way.
Despite my misgivings, I sat down and listened to his description of ‘Induced After-Death Communication’, a therapy he’d developed by modifying a biofeedback technique in which the eyes quickly go back and forth.
The theory… is based on the observation that during rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, the brain is able to make associations and process information more quickly than during normal waking hours. Imitating REMs in the waking hours is believed to activate the same sort of speedy processing and associative leaps that were previously only attainable during dream states.
Drawing on the decades he spent at the Veteran’s Administration treating soldiers with severe grief and trauma, Dr Botkin explained that each client must be moved from the more superficial emotions – anger, guilt, and shame – into the core sadness, which he believes is the root cause of the other emotions.
Realistic, joyful, inner vision
Dr Botkin claimed that using his modified technique people could safely move through their sadness and release it. Further, about 70 per cent of his clients experienced after-death communication (ADC), reconnecting with the bereaved person in a realistic, joyful, inner vision.
As he described the methodology for me in his frank, no-frills way, every one of my intellectual bells went off to tell me that he was pulling my leg. At the same time, I had a strong gut feeling that said he was onto something. Being a good scientist, I trusted my gut. I let him do a short session with me, even though I told him I had no grief.
One minute later, after simply looking at the moving wand and listening to him gently ask me to get in touch with my grief, I was filled with images of my last fateful interaction with Josh. I watched some more waves of the magic wand and started to cry, seeing images of his death. As my sadness began to wane, I got in touch with a happy memory of Josh. Then I closed my eyes and actually had an ADC.
Simply, without pretense, I saw Josh walk out from behind a door. My friend jumped around with his youthful enthusiasm, beaming at me. I felt great joy at the connection but I couldn’t tell whether I was making the whole thing up. He told me I wasn’t to blame and I believed him. Then I saw Josh playing with his sister’s dog. I didn’t know she had one. We said good-bye and I opened my eyes, laughing.
The experience seemed too simple, too light. There were no trumpets, no bright tunnels, just a conversation with Josh.
Dr Botkin had mentioned that people are surprised by how ‘normal’ ADC seems; I certainly was. He also mentioned that neither the therapist nor the client has to believe in the validity of ADC for it to heal – grief is resolved through the reconnection, whether real or imagined.
Later, I found out that Josh’s sister’s dog had died, and it was the same breed as the one I had seen in my vision. Yet I still don’t know what’s real. What I do know is that when I think of Josh, I no longer dwell on the images of me calling him or of his car getting hit. Instead, I see Josh walking toward me, laughing and playing with an angel dog. For now, this is the only kind of proof I need.’ (Copyright – Dr Alan Botkin; Julia Mossbridge)
Julia Mossbridge, a Chicago-based writer, is also a mother, cognitive neuroscientist, and author of Unfolding: The Perpetual Science of Your Soul’s Work.
In conclusion it doesn’t matter what you believe, what we believe, or even what ‘experiencers’ believe. The IADC® experiences we have induced in thousands of clients result in dramatic life changes that heal grief and trauma in a very short time and are sustained long-term.
The technique has worth because it works; and it doesn’t need the support of agreement about any belief system or theory concerning the source of the phenomenon to support it.
Offers to alleviate suffering
One conclusion is clear: the IADC® induction procedure offers the means to alleviate a great amount of human suffering. There is no greater pain in life than losing a child, a battlefield buddy, or a spouse of many years and then feeling disconnected, forever.
We lose a part of ourselves when we lose someone so important to us. Now, we can routinely heal this deep pain as well as anger, guilt, and the other emotions resulting from the loss.
Helen Parish, BSW, Grad Dip SocWel, Grad Dip Human Services (Counselling) www.induced-adc.com/australia